Trying something new can be scary.
Why would you want to put yourself through that?
A very good question. It could be that you get a thrill from the unknown, the excitement of not knowing what will happen next.
Sometimes it's not so much the fear that stops us from trying something new as it is our comfort level. Let's face it, we humans like to be comfortable. Change is not always comfortable. How then, are we to know if we can succeed at something if we don't try. How will you know if you like swimming if you don't get in the water? How will you know if you like brussell sprouts if you don't try them? Just so you know, I still don't like them. No amount of butter, cheese, or grandma's special recipe can make me like them. But hey! I tried them at least. Now I know.
Are you a Joiner?
Organizations, activism, sports groups, fantasy leagues, and hobby clubs surround us in our communities, schools, and states. Occasionally our limited time is fractured by conflicting schedules as a direct result of trying to participate on everyone’s team. Unlike some students who are often asked by their club adviser to only be active in their club, adults must balance the scale between personal life, business, and family. Here are some pros and cons to being a joiner.
What is a Joiner?
A joiner can be defined as a person who joins many organizations. Of course, according to Merriam-Webster.com it is also a person whose job is to build things by joining pieces of wood. Me, I still prefer Legos. Joining many organizations can be a positive in that it can help you build business relationships and a network of people. This should not however be your only goal.
People frequently say there is strength in numbers and certainly by being an active member in an organization you have an arsenal of people that can aid you in financial advice, possibly help you with public relation-type events, and even may contribute to your business through purchasing or providing an additional service.
Tom Searcy of CBS news’ Moneywatch writes on his blog How being a joiner can boost sales: 10 Rules that, “To advance your sales contacts and build clientele, it's essential to take part in professional groups. Personal contacts made through these groups prove to be invaluable assets to both your career and your company or cause. So before you sign up, put on your Sherlock Holmes hat and do some sleuthing.” Searcy continues to say that a person should find people they can rely on and only network with people that will be more of a strength rather than a hindrance. Makes sense, right?
Joiners have limited and divided time to be active with one organization because they are active in many organizations. Tina Williamson from Lifehack.org’s article 6 Signs You May Be Overextending Yourself says, “You spend time worrying about time” and continues to say, “If you stress about a five-minute change in schedule, jump right down to the solutions. You are overextended.”
This kind of repeated behavior or lifestyle often leads to high stress levels, fatigue, depression and financial hardships since income is often placed in multiple hands. If you struggle with organization and managing your time effectively it is very easy to slip into the phase of not having a clue when important events occur. You could even end up missing out on some sort of important lifetime activity such as graduation, weddings, a child’s dance recital or baseball game. Sometimes less meetings are more productive.
Take some time and evaluate the groups you belong to. Whether the group is large or small, you still do not have attend every meeting. People are more understanding than you may think and often help out to pick up the slack. And hey, if they get upset because you missed a meeting due to your child’s birthday, so be it. Which is more important to you? All I can say is to choose wisely.
James O. Barnes is a speaker, author, and publishing consultant. He is also the Publisher for Loconeal Publishing and the creator of EntrePublishing. You can learn more about James here.